If
you frequent the bar scene or have tried online dating recently, you’ve
probably been barraged by men who think that lewd séxual remarks or
lame pick up lines are what it takes to get them a date— or into your
pants.
And
then, there’s the general insensitivity. Men can be thoughtless when it
comes to dating and relationships. It’s not that they intend to be
rude… they just don’t think things through. But that doesn’t mean women
should necessarily push men away. Women play a part too. Sometimes,
women can tend to focus on the negative, making matters worse.
Dr.
Jane Greer, GalTime’s own Relationship Expert, and creator of “Shrink
Wrap” (a national commentary on what we can learn from celebrity
relationships), has heard it all… “He talked too much, he interrupted,
he came late, he told you that you were going out to dinner and then he
changed his mind… this list could go on infinitely because the knee-jerk
response is to talk about what túrned you off.”
Dr.
Greer points out that we can all benefit from a change in attitude. “I
think the key for men and women both is to shift from the ‘túrn off’ to
the ‘túrn on.’ Then your day after conversation can be testimony to the
positives. You can say, ‘Here’s what I liked…’ and that can give you
something to build on.”
There are plenty of things men can do to túrn women on. She offers these tips:
1. Be reliable and follow through. If
you say you are going to call, call. Otherwise, don’t say it. If you
make a date for 7:00 get there at 7:00, or be thoughtful and communicate
in some form that you’re running late. This is how you convey respect.
2. Show interest by asking questions. Take
the time to inquire about the important aspects of her life—like
friends, work, family and hobbies. This is the way you get to find out
the things you have in common– and at the same time show her she’s
important to get to know about.
3. Compliment her. Let
her know the things you like about her, what túrns you on about her– is
in fact a huge túrn on for her. If you like her hair, outfit or
something she says… tell her!
4. Be considerate. Ask
her about the things she likes to do, and factoring in her preferences
and needs into the plans you make for your date. If you’re at a
restaurant ask her what food she likes before you order to see if you
can share anything.
5. Flírt with her! Be playful, charming, and séxy, smile a lot and laugh with her. All of these things will spark a connection that will be a great túrn on.
source GalTime
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